ENTER AS YOU ARE
For a stronger relationship with yourself, authentic and satisfying relationships with others, and greater capacity to navigate the challenges, changes and possibilities of life.
From feeling anxious, overwhelmed, burnt out or disconnected from yourself, to difficulties with relationships, intimacy, trust, ADHD, chronic health, or finding yourself caught in ways of thinking, feeling, reacting or relating that you want to change.
Whatever brings you here rarely exists in isolation. How we feel within ourselves can shape how we relate to others. Our relationships and experiences can shape how we see and treat ourselves. And the ways we've learned to cope, protect ourselves and keep going can become patterns that no longer serve us well.
My work makes room for the wider picture: your relationships and experiences, what happens in your body, what you're thinking and feeling, the ways you've learned to adapt and protect yourself, and what matters to you now.
WHERE ARE THINGS FEELING DIFFICULT?
Your relationship with yourself
Feeling disconnected from yourself or like you've lost touch with who you are; not knowing what you need, want or how you really feel; your mind and body seeming to work against each other rather than as a team; knowing something intellectually but not being able to feel, believe or act from it; constantly questioning your decisions or looking to others to tell you what's right; being much harder on yourself than you would be on someone else; feeling like you're never quite good enough; putting yourself last or feeling guilty when you don't; struggling to say no, set limits, let yourself be heard, or take up space; hiding, suppressing or judging parts of yourself; changing yourself to be accepted; or feeling like different parts of you are pulling in opposite directions.
Your relationship with others
Repeating painful relationship patterns; wanting closeness but struggling to let people in; worrying they'll leave, lose interest, or decide you're too much; needing reassurance or reading into changes in someone's attention, tone or contact; difficulty trusting; struggling with emotional intimacy, vulnerability or being truly known; difficulties with physical or sexual intimacy, desire, affection or touch; struggling to ask for what you need or say when something has hurt you; frequent or explosive conflict; avoiding difficult conversations, withdrawing, going silent or shutting the other person out; problems that repeatedly get left unresolved; losing yourself in relationships; or struggling through rupture, separation or divorce, rejection or loss.
Your patterns under pressure
Overthinking everything; becoming anxious, hyper-alert or easily overwhelmed; people-pleasing or trying to keep everyone happy; pushing yourself until you burn out; needing to get everything right; procrastinating or avoiding what feels too much; becoming defensive or reactive; withdrawing from people; going numb or shutting down; or knowing how you'd like to respond but finding that disappears when you're stressed.
Your health and neurological realities
ADHD making it difficult to start, organise or finish things, manage time, stay focused or keep up with everyday demands; chronic illness, pain or fatigue changing what you're able to do; having to repeatedly adjust plans around your body or energy; struggling with unpredictability or limitations; feeling frustrated with or let down by your body; or dealing with the impact of health or ADHD on work, relationships, independence and daily life.
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COACH, CONSULTANT
& SOMATIC PRACTITIONER
Hello, I am Essena!
My work sits at the intersection of somatic and cognitive modalities, supporting people across interconnected areas of life including emotional experience, identity, psychological and physical health, relationships, intimacy, communication, leadership, and self-connection.
I work with the patterns, protections, conflicts, emotions, relational dynamics, and internal worlds that shape how we live, relate, love, work, and move through life.
Together, we explore not only what is happening on the surface, but also the deeper emotional, relational, behavioural, and nervous system patterns underneath it.
I CONSULT, I COACH, BUT I AM A HUMAN BEING FIRST.
I know what it is to navigate challenge, disconnection, change, uncertainty, and the ongoing work of building, repairing and reshaping our relationship with ourselves, with life, and with the people we love — across time.
Like many people, I’ve lived through periods of fragmentation, adaptation, loss, health struggles, rupture, grief, anxiety, fear, shame, and profound internal and relational conflict — alongside moments of joy, connection, passion, love, meaning, discovery, and deep aliveness too.
Again and again, life has asked me to meet myself differently.
To build a relationship with parts of myself I either didn’t fully understand yet, or felt afraid to let in.
To navigate what happens when the body changes, when relationships change or break down, when identity shifts, when coping strategies stop working, and when life does not unfold the way you imagined it would.
None of it happened all at once.
It happened slowly, in layers, across time, relationships, experiences, losses, decisions, and new understandings.
And that process continues.
MY COMMITMENT
My connection and commitment to this work comes from more than lived experience alone, and began long before I started my education and training.
In fact for as long as I can remember, I’ve been deeply attuned to people, relationships, emotion, behaviour, conflict, patterns, and the spaces between what is felt, expressed, misinterpreted, hidden, protected, and wanted deep down.
I’ve always been drawn toward understanding, toward repair, resolve and cultivation, toward bridging disconnection and misunderstanding, and toward what helps people come back into relationship with themselves, and with one another.
It can be painful, beautiful, confronting, connective, messy... And it all matters.
FUN FACTS
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I love and ride motorcycles.
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I take sanctuary in the wild places - ocean waves, soft sand beneath me, forests, mountains, lakes, waterfalls.
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My love affair with music is deep and real, I am given life and moved by so many genres and instruments, although guitar and drums light up my body & soul, always have always will.
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I'm a major self-talker, out loud and body processor. If it's not dance and movement, it's talking and singing.
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I treat green tea-making like a sacred ritual.
How it works
THE 4 EASY STEPS
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We start with connection and discovery in a complimentary 60-minute call, just you and me. This is an open, curious, no-pressure space to tune in to the things you care about and long for, any challenges you are experiencing, and how coaching and working with me can help you personally. It's also a beautiful opportunity to get a feel for my energy and approach, and see if we are a good fit.
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CONTAINER CHOICE
Once you've decided you feel a resonance and wish to work with me, we discuss my 3 / 6 / 9 /12 month containers. From there you simply select the coaching container you want to commit to, and we set up payment. Then we will move through the on-boarding process, in preparation for our first session.
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WEEKLY 1:1 COACHING
You meet with me weekly for 1-hour sessions. Through consistent exploration, compassionate supportive strategies, expression and practices, transformation takes root in your body, and naturally unfolds in your life and relationships.
Together we co-create a flexible, living road map, aligned with you, your values, desires and goals. One that also honours your unique rhythms, includes your body and nervous-system, and builds your capacities.
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ONGOING SUPPORT
You'll have the option for check-ins and email support, offering you continued support, guidance, reflections, tools and resources. To help you integrate and move through things that arise, in and outside of our sessions - in situations, relationships, moments and challenges.
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